- Jake now eats his vitamins. The Star Wars games didn’t work. I think they were too complicated. We found a system, though, where he shows me “his moves” for a minute, powers himself up, so to speak, and then downs the vitamins. Awesome! It has worked consistently for about 12 days now and I feel like we have created a new routine that works.
- I am trying to use the words autism and autistic more in front of Jake, working them into conversation within earshot. Baby steps.
- The IEP meeting was great, and afterwards I felt much relief. He is really only struggling with social issues at school right now. We discussed enrichment for him. He really is such a neat kid. They spoke so positively about him. He’s sweet, polite, and kind. He is respectful. He is not defiant or interested in causing trouble. He doesn’t disrupt his classmates. The one day that he came close to a meltdown at school, his EA correctly realized that he was feeling overly anxious and provided him a chance to calm down and reset, avoiding a potentially bad situation. Apparently the other students all get along with him and like him.
I am going to work at having some more social opportunities for him, playdates and stuff. I don’t want to overload any of us, though.
- We have also started Tae Kwon Do with both Aiden and Jake, and that adds more stuff to our routine too. It was really hard to get Jake into it. His dad did Judo as a teen, and won several medals that the boys love playing with. His cousin also does Judo, so naturally Jake thought that Judo was the only martial art that is acceptable. Unfortunately, where we live there is no Judo offered, Tae Kwon Do is our only option.
We watched some videos on YouTube of kids practicing and Aiden was sold. He was so excited he could hardly stand it. The first class he was beaming the entire time. Jake, however, refused to participate, and we agreed that he could observe and hoped that he would come around. The benefits were so obvious. There were much older kids, teenagers, mentoring the beginners. The relationship possibilities thrilled me. There was a great focus on practice and support. There was a lot of structure and repetition. There were clear goals and rewards in place. I just felt like it was exactly the extra-curricular activity for us.
Jake was still not sold.
And so we turned to our standby for such situations. Bribery.
We agreed that if both boys participate in 35 Tae Kwon Do classes, we will buy them a big Lego Star Wars set.
Well, I had barely whispered the idea and Jake was all of a sudden completely turned around and ready to go. He had to wait three days before he could finally participate. Oh! He’s so funny.
And so, they both went. They did great. They learned lots, and Jake was already correcting Aiden on Tae Kwon Do etiquette. They came home and put shiny stickers on their new 5×7 sticker grids that we printed to chart their progress.
I am thrilled.
- Jake has missed parts or all of eight days of school due to fevers. I am jumping into the gluten free/casein free diet in hope of making a difference with this and I have no other ideas. We are working as a family to try to slow down and make time for him to relax and play. I have booked an appointment with his new pediatrician to discuss it but it isn’t until November. All in all I feel quite frustrated and helpless with the fevers. They are so hard on him.
- The other change around here is that all of a sudden, Jake is reading.
At the Meet the Teacher night, his teacher suggested that if we read with our kids for eight minutes a day, four days a week, they could earn a reward. I am motivated by rewards just like my munchkins, and so I did not want Jake to miss out. I pulled out the reader he brought home, and like nobody’s business, he read it!
The next day I tried him on something less familiar, digging out Green Eggs and Ham. Sure enough, he read that too! The first half, anyways. Tonight he read Go Dog Go to his dad. I am incredibly impressed. That teacher, she is teaching him to read! He is getting it and is so proud. He was just grinning so adorably tonight. I’ve heard that there is a light bulb that goes on when kids learn to read. I had no idea how amazing it is to watch.
It’s so good. I am so proud. There is so much evidence of God’s love here and we are so blessed.